CONTENTS | 60 BETTER LIFE clarity that things can go well, even if the future is unclear.” While certain tertiary studies have entry requirements that match good Grade 12 exam results, not all children will necessarily need to score highly to get into a college, but some form of tertiary learning can aid them in finding their way. Though some may go on to do other things, such as starting a business or working in a job that doesn’t require tertiary studies, there is still merit in choosing an initial focus after graduating from high school. There are opportunities to do an apprenticeship in a trade, there are bursaries available across a range of fields, and entrepreneurship doesn’t always come with a degree. Tammy notes it’s a wise move to consider options as early as possible, but whatever path a child may seem drawn to, parents should maintain that supportive approach. Many youngsters struggle committing to tertiary studies as they believe this will determine the outcome of their entire working career, but this isn’t always true. According to FundiConnect, 50-60% of university students drop out in the first year, and though there are various reasons as to why, changing course is among them. IT’S A PROCESS “Life is a journey of learning, and where we start is not necessarily where we end up, and that’s okay – the only way to really know is to try,” she adds, noting that often when we try and don’t succeed, other options can present themselves. “Remind them that if we are not making mistakes, we are not learning, and if we are not learning, we are not growing. It’s crucial to adopt a growth mind-set, instead of a fixed mind-set.” Studying is a useful steppingstone, but it may not align with where a child ends up professionally, and circumstances from financial backing to realistic dreaming will play a role. Fundamentally, every parent wishes success for their child and can see their capabilities, which can create an expectation or add pressure, but being open-minded will have a better result for a child’s present and future wellbeing. As Tammy concludes: “Parents should take an interest in their child’s dreams. If you encourage curiosity about exploring new things, no matter how unconventional, your child will form a stronger connection with what interests them, and what suits them professionally."